If you are spending a great deal of time thinking about something that is bothering you, it is imperative that you let it go. By placing attention on the problem you are making it worse. The law of attraction works-what you put out in the universe, comes back to you. So, unless you want a whole lot of angst take my advice and practice the following steps:
1. Look honestly at the problem before you. Since I'm not tackling life or death issues in this article, let's assume it's a relatively minor thing. Let's say you got in a disagreement with your mother-in-law. Your husband told her that you exchanged the pretty blouse she got you for your birthday. She got offended, and you have to see her next month for Christmas.
Family issues can be tricky, and cause for too much unwanted tension. It doesn't have to be that way. The best way to tackle issues like this is take immediate action. Don't let too much time go by, that just makes the situation more awkward.
2. Take action. Your intention and feeling behind this action is key. It is very important to be respectful and humble. Try not to come off as placating. The Mother-in-Law is already in a sensitive mood and she will be highly attuned to a lack of genuineness.
If you normally do not talk on the phone, don't start now. If you email, do that. Give your sincere thanks for her generous gift. Tell her you thought the blouse really was beautiful. Refrain from adding, "but"...
3. Communicate with integrity and compassion. Be honest, yet kind. Know that she really meant well and the last thing you wanted to do was to offend her, especially since she has been so good to you.
Use this as an opportunity to tell her who you are as a unique individual. Again, be honest. Maybe you are a tomboy, and do not like frilly things. Maybe your family had a habit of exchanging gifts that were passed around, and you were raised that it was no big deal. Maybe you are a control freak, and it's difficult for you to accept clothes that you did not pick out.
The last thing you want to do is to appear "right." Be willing to let your Mother-in-law win. Express your blunder, as something that was just you being you, but add that you should have been more sensitive to the idea that she might have misconstrued that you exchanged her gift.
Tell her what you got instead, and how much you enjoyed the whole experience of shopping. Tell her you love her, and ask her for a Christmas gift idea, so you can get her something special.
Take a deep breath and allow yourself to smile. There is nothing more you can do. You were compassionate and truthful. You apologized, and allowed your mother-in-law to get to know you better. In most cases she will gladly forgive you and respect you. If she doesn't, do not beg.
You have done all you can do. Continue to practice positive thinking, because the law of attraction never stops working. Allow yourself to rest in a state of happiness. You are a kind soul who handled a sticky situation with dignity. Let it go, and the power of love will go full circle.
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